Running Into Walls Looking for a Door

Running Into Walls Looking for a Door

Our lives are often defined by the places that we stay most often and the company that we keep. Regardless of our skills, values, experience, knowledge or character the parameters that we actually work within dictate our success and happiness be it personal, professional, spiritual, physical or whathaveyou.


Sometimes we are doing the best that we know how to do but we are not progressing or achieving in the way that we might want to. Could it be that our options and/or opportunities are limited by our vision or ability to find the resources necessary to be successful?

Becoming more aware of ourselves and our surroundings can help us to develop ourselves more fully and also better recognize the opportunities around us. If what is familiar to us is not getting us the results that we’re looking for it’s often a good idea to step back and assess our situation. Are we honestly taking the actions necessary to accomplish our goals? Do we have a robust professional network? Perhaps a roadblock is there for a reason because it wasn’t a good idea (at least for us) to begin with? Perhaps you’re selling snowcones at the North Pole? Are we working smart? Have we given our ideas a chance to succeed? Have we spent too much time hoping that our ideas would succeed?

As an artist I have often been driven more by my passion to create than by my desire for financial security, stability or even wealth. As I’ve gotten older my desire for material comforts and financial security has increased so I have learned to apply my creative passions into the process of promoting and expanding my art to become an entrepreneur. Part of the reason that I have been learning more about doing business is that I feel that I keep running into walls in my desire to progress. If I can’t find a door to move to another level then maybe I can make one.

Taking the road less travelled and pursuing one’s unrealized potential can be very challenging but can also be a very rewarding way of life. As a young musician I was more excited about playing and creating music than fulfilling material desires. As an adult I still long for the freedom of an artist along with the comfort and opportunity that comes with material wealth. Since my goals have expanded artistically and financially my efforts have needed to grow and change. My old habits are not going to manifest the goals of today.

Because I have grander goals than many of the people that I am acquainted with I am often frustrated in my efforts to progress and to find like minds. I also have a tendency to doubt myself and my capacity to achive my goals.

On occasion I have allowed myself to lose faith in myself and my capacity to realize my dreams. However, I never quit. I pull myself out of my paralyzing state of doubt and get up and swing again. Sometimes we need to sharpen our tools. Sometimes we need to elevate our efforts. Sometimes we just need to take a walk and clear our heads. No matter what I’ll never give up and I hope that you don’t, either.

Here are some thoughts regarding obstacles and/or frustration:

  • My mother likes to say “It is what it is”.
  • Breathe.
  • Take a walk.
  • Try a different way.
  • Open your mind to new ideas.
  • Do your daily habits reflect the kind of lifestyle that you want for yourself?
  • Are you actually taking the actions necessary to accomplish your goals?
  • Do you make it a habit to grow and nurture your social and professional network?
  • Is whatever’s bothering you going to matter in 2 weeks? 2 years? 10 years?
  • Learn to choose your words wisely. What you say and how you say it can make a big difference.
  • Always be honest to others and yourself. Live life without guilt or regret.
  • At some point you have to stop blaming others and take control of your own situation. Nobody can help you the way you can help yourself.
  • Don’t let doubt and fear hold you back. Be brave. Courage isn’t a lack of fear but pushing on despite fear and doubt.
  • Are you associating with the kind of people that you want to be?
  • Are you working to grow and nurture your customer (fan) base on a daily basis?
  • Develop relationships with people that are doing what you want to do.
  • Learn about what other people have done to be successful and follow their lead.
  • Know your industry. Stay current with your industry. Know the movers and shakers in your industry.
  • “To master others is strength. To master yourself is true power.”
    -Lao Tzu